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The curious case of worry

Unsure of the actual source of the diagram below, this surely used to send me to guilt trips making me feel embarrassed. Is worrying so seriously useless and am I so silly that I couldn't realize such a simple thing?!! Let's discuss another curious case


Well, upon reflection I could finally come out of my embarrassment and realize that

there’s nothing wrong with worrying. No one worries purposefully.... After all, worry is just as natural as excitement. Have we not seen many kids/teenagers anticipating their birthday's weeks in advance? When we don't blame people for getting excited while anticipating good things, why do we blame people for getting worried while anticipating bad things? It is as simple! I write this very vehemently to tell people who preach againt overthinking that yes over-thinking and worrying is bad but nothing to make anybody feel foolish about it. Stop sending people on guilt trips... PLEASE!! Maybe, worry and their conscious thinking are all interlinked and all the necessary caution they have kept in their lives.

Complete absence of worry may make one carefree to the point of being careless and at times reckless. Maybe like so-called "spoiled brats" who are neither worried of getting into any mess nor are they worried about getting out of it. 

Worry is simply part of anticipation which not just causes anxiety but also prepares one for the unseen events. It is as straightforward and natural as planning chess moves. The tense anticipation helps one prepare for the eventualities, and many undesired cases are averted before they actually happen. Worry looms when no possible damage control can be done. Worry is not bad.... it's just the reflex of one's anticipation. One may explain people against worrying but it's insane blaming people for it. As one rehearses for the unexpected events, eventually may overcome the natural course of stress. To conclude, yes worrying is bad and one has to master it just like other skills. Nothing foolish about it nor making anyone feel guilty about it. Let's stop oversimplifying it...PERIOD!


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